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Building A Positive Sibling Relationship

Home is the place where we learn many life lessons. Relationship lessons, how to get along with others, solve problems, practice friendship skills, and resolve conflicts, are all acquired one way or another at home with parents and siblings. How well the lessons are taught is up to the parents. Just as mom and dad’s relationship is the model for marriage, sibling interactions lay the groundwork for future friendships. So how do we encourage our kids to be friends with one another.

Always expect the best.
Parental expectations play a tremendous role in how children behave. Keep the bar high in regard to sibling relationships. Make a list at a family meeting of attributes your family values. Expect each member of the family to live up to the expectation. “We are kind, trustworthy, helpful…”.

A team mentality is helpful too. The Three Musketeers mantra works well, “All for one and one for all.” God knits each family together. It’s our job to figure out how to get along and create a loving, peaceful home. Here are some pointers.

Eight Pointers for Encouraging Positive Sibling Relationships

1. Do not compare children. Each child is uniquely created. When parents compare kids, it leads to rivalry.

2. Train kids to share. One day the child will need to share with a roommate or spouse.

3. Encourage empathy. Listen well.   

4. Build confidence. Be cheerleaders for one another.

5. Help one another. Train children to ask and be willing to receive assistance with homework, chores, and other tasks.  

6. Serve others as a family. When families work together to help others less fortunate, there’s a great sense of blessing and gratitude.

7. Trust is foundational in families. Home needs to be a place where confidences are kept.

8. Plan family fun nights. Enjoy each other’s company! Laugh together!

There are few greater things than to have family members that are not only civil to one another, but actually like to be together. Unfortunately, we all tend to save our worst behaviors for the ones we love the most. Expect your children to do better, to love unconditionally and to always exhibit kindness. Sibling congeniality, it’s a gift that will keep on giving for years to come.




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About the Author

Becky Danielson, M.Ed.

Becky Danielson, M.Ed.

Becky Danielson, M.Ed., has two of the best job descriptions, wife and mom. She is also a licensed Parent & Family Educator, co-founder of 1 Corinthians 13 Parenting, and the co-author of Raising Little Kids with Big Love and Raising Big Kids with Supernatural Love along with Study Guides. The series is available on Amazon. Becky and her family live in the Land of 10,000 Lakes. Subscribe to the parenting newsletter at FaithFirstParent.com and the quarterly newsletter at 1Corinthians13Parenting.com for parenting tips, strategies, and resources to equip and encourage you on your parenting journey.


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